The manner by which someone with dementia experiences the world isn’t always based in our current reality. One of the most heartbreaking yet profound experiences you might encounter is something called time-shifting in dementia. It isn’t just failing to remember what day it is; it’s a complete immersion in a different era of their life. For instance, maybe you are sitting together at the dining table, and all of a sudden, the person is convinced they are a child waiting for their parents to come home. It is confusing for them and may be equally perplexing for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.

What Exactly Is Time-Shifting in Dementia?

Time-shifting happens when an individual with dementia perceives themselves as living in a different moment from their past. Beyond reminiscing, it’s a profound, convincing belief that they are currently in that particular period of time. For them, the present time fades, substituted by intense memories that feel as real as today. They might call out for people who passed on years ago or speak about events that took place decades earlier as though they were happening now.

The Best Ways to Manage Time-Shifting

When time-shifting occurs, it’s normal to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they’re here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this approach often creates frustration, distress, and confusion. As an alternative, try leaning into their reality. Validate their emotions, acknowledge what they are expressing, and react with empathy. If they’re anxious about an appointment with their parents, for example, you might say, “It sounds like you genuinely care about being on time. They must have meant so much to you.” This reaction can provide comfort without the jarring reminder that their parents aren’t around anymore.

Making Connection Through Their World

Time-shifting can be an opportunity to create moments of connection with the individual you love. Make inquiries about the time they’re immersed in, like, “What’s your favorite thing to do when your parents get home?” Questions similar to this can inspire storytelling that engages them while providing you with a richer comprehension of their past. You might hear stories you have never heard before or learn details that enable you to get closer.

Looking After Yourself

It is critical to recognize that time-shifting can be emotionally exhausting. Seeing a person you love drift into another moment in time can leave you feeling helpless. Be sure you have support, whether from professional resources, friends, or family. Joining a support group for caregivers may also give you helpful tips and companionship from individuals that know very well what you are experiencing. Remember, you do not have to do this alone.

Our Dementia Care Experts Are Here to Help

Though we know how hard it can be, time-shifting moments offer a view into the life experiences that have formed your loved one. And we are here to assist you every step of the way in taking care of a person you love with dementia. Our professional care specialists are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to help in Boston, North Shore, South Shore, and the surrounding areas in Eastern Massachusetts, with live-in care services available throughout New Hampshire, Vermont, Maine, and Massachusetts. Give us a call at 617-376-3711 for a free in-home meeting to learn more.