Learning how to care for someone with Alzheimer’s doesn’t happen overnight. You try to lead with compassion, stay informed, and do the right thing—but some strategies that seem helpful can unintentionally make things more difficult. The truth is, Alzheimer’s care mistakes are common, and the solution is understanding and implementing more effective strategies.

Here are six missteps to watch for and what you can do differently.

1. Correcting or Disputing Their Version of Reality

If your loved one says something untrue—like believing their parents are still alive or thinking they have to go to work—it may feel natural to correct them. But doing so often leads to anxiety or distress.

Instead: Join their world. If they say they need to catch a bus, ask where they’re going and reminisce. Respond to the emotion, not the facts.

2. Nitpicking Minor Mistakes

When they forget your name or insist it’s Monday when it’s Friday, you might try to gently remind them. But frequent corrections can come across as disapproval.

Instead: Let small inaccuracies slide. If the mistake brings them comfort or a sense of security, that’s more important than getting the details right.

3. Giving Multi-Step Directions

Telling someone to “get dressed, brush your teeth, and come to the kitchen” may feel simple to you, but to someone with Alzheimer’s, it can be overwhelming.

Instead: Break down tasks one step at a time. Give space to process and use visual cues when possible.

4. Reacting Emotionally to Hurtful Behavior

Outbursts, paranoia, or disinterest can feel personal. But they’re usually symptoms, not true reflections of how your loved one feels.

Instead: Try to stay grounded. These behaviors stem from brain changes. Your steady, loving presence is more powerful than it may seem.

5. Making Decisions Without Including Them

When conversation becomes difficult, caregivers often speak about the person rather than to them. But people with dementia still feel the effects of being left out.

Instead: Talk directly to them, even if they don’t always respond. Ask simple, closed-ended questions and maintain eye contact.

6. Running on Empty

It’s easy to keep going without taking breaks, especially when caregiving feels constant. But exhaustion catches up fast.

Instead: Prioritize self-care. Ask for support early. Whether through friends, family, or professional care, your health matters too.

You won’t get everything right—and that’s okay. Alzheimer’s caregiving is a learning process. What matters most is continuing to show up with patience, grace, and love.

Need a Break? Let Us Help.

Traditions Home Health Services offers compassionate Alzheimer’s and dementia care throughout Boston, Metro West, South Coast, and the surrounding areas in Eastern Massachusetts, with live-in care services available throughout New Hampshire, Vermont, Maine, and Massachusetts. Call 617-376-3711 to learn more.